‘Most people do not listen with the intent to understand;
They listen with the intent to reply’ – Stephen R. Covey
This really catch my eyes, where I felt it’s kinda true and it’s even happen to me sometimes. Whenever people saying sometimes, may just replied by denying something especially, this is really not right where I should somehow avoid this to happen.
Cheers,
– The Bee –
On top of the problem with the couple, there are issues like with in-laws. Although I am not married yet. I was fall into this kind of dilemma. Well, when problem comes, the best way to cope with this is face it instead of avoid it. One of the reason behind is that I chose to be with ‘him’.
I never knew I would ever fall into this dilemma, probably i somehow expecting too much better on myself. Things is sometimes I really hardly to be in their house culture. His parents is apparently love me and treat me as part of their family. Somehow, the kind of Long winded and so many much of complains are really gonna to kill me.. 😦 I am not saying I am a perfect one, being a young generation, we somehow need to respect them and since they are living so much longer than us and of course they deserve their love from us too.
I admit I myself is a rebellious one. I couldn’t take as people saying something on me. This is one of my disadvantages. Yeah, but if you were saying it more to like advice and with a soft mode, I will definitely listen to you. Back to all, i bet this is due to egoism on me and with soften mode, it can calm myself. Whereas, I bet one of he main reason, I couldn’t accept the tone of their advising, that could somehow make me feel so bad or sad. Early in the morning, I was preparing to cut my fruits and well, due to different of environment, we had different opinion in certain thing, even small things like way of cutting we may have some comments on it. Well, first off, being challenge by that. Well, it’s okay. I still follow my way of cutting, just reply in a ‘oh, okay.. ‘ mode. Thereafter, I put my fruits at back and she was like kept asking, ‘don’t you want to eat ur fruits and was saying oh! u want to put it there and let the sun spoil your fruits?’ Well, I guess I will know when to eat ? Could I decide by myself? At least, in the end i would bear what will happen to me?
Here I would say the art of communicating is really an important to say. What do you think ?
Although you didn’t mean that, somehow the way you talk will interfere some people feelings. I am saying it in an overall. Well, this is all I want to learn all this while in fact to enhance my communications skills. Somehow, sometimes I felt I am so fail! Well, communication is as of two way, both parties should know too. But, how do I expect them to change because of me? where somehow, sometimes I felt it’s so hardly. I guess, I would be the one who should suit their style. And I hope, I can make it? Let’s stay tuned and see.
If say, in future, I would make my kids to feel the same on me. I really have to read this back, hold on and think, ‘Am I doing the right thing? Once upon a time, I used to hate this kind of things to happen, Do I really wish this to go on for younger generations?’ This is somehow a good thought? What do you all think?
‘The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.’ – George Bernard Shaw –
– The flower and the bee –
I shared my part 1 for kind a long time. I didn’t update my part 2 after so me at months. Reason: intended to produce a great piece; ended up, procrastinate. 😝
The brief of our journey as below:
Vientiane ————-> Vang Vieng —————-> Luang Prabang ————–> Vientiane
Next stop was Vang Vieng.
Vang Vieng is a small town with the main street featuring guest houses, bars, restaurants, internet cafes, tour agencies and western tourists. For a Malaysian, it is like some where in Gopeng, where it is also a small town with some sports activities around. Well, it is indeed a nice place you shouldn’t be missed.
We spent a night there. The accommodation at there was quite cheap, which was around 10 USD per room (If i could remember correctly. Well, to us, we well spent on this as we could get a extraordinary experience which wrote a significance memory in my our heart. We stayed in a wooden hut shelter, back of our house is beautiful scenery where we always only can see via painting. However, we could really see it with our own eyes. This is so exciting. That night was raining dizzily. We could really hear the water drop in the roof of the hut. dik, dok, dik, dok…. We merely can hear sound of vehicles which exist in hustle and bustle city. All we could hear are those insects sound… Awhh.. Amazing!
Magnificient View with down-to-earth life. Intresting experience.
Activities: Cycling to visit the Blue Lagoon, Water Tubing
Experience to share:
We rent two bicycles to go to Blue Lagoon. The two of us was so daring, we didn’t know how far it was and then we just decided to rent bicycles. After two hours rides, we started to regret. We still haven’t reach our destination yet! Awhh.. That’s really awful especially ride under the hot sun. In the middle of the journey, my bicycle broke down; the pedal of the bicycle went off. I couldn’t ride anymore. Luckily, there was one local Samaritan assisted us. However, he didn’t have any tools to fix it. Aferthat, I had to pull the bicycle with me. Thanks god, there was a motobike repair shop nearby. We borrowed tools from him. At that time, we felt so relieved. Although we don’t share the common language, however, we use body language as a way to communicate with him. Finally, it being fixed. Later, we gave up of looking for the Blue Lagoon, it’s indeed make the two of us so blue! At the instant, we saw a signboard, ‘BLUE LAGOON’. Finally!!! We found the signboard, we ended up heading to blue lagoon. Well, it’s a small lagoon where its water is so blue and there is a swing for visitors to test their braveness. 😉
Next, we went for the water tubing. It was kind of a boring one if were to compare with the White water rafting. Well, what’s special here is that there is a mini cafe at the water spot there where visitors can be invited to chill on top. Cool though.
Next stop, Luang Prabang. We sit in a sleeping bus to Luang Prabang. Initially, we were expecting that would be a nice coach. Surprisingly, our booked coach being take off by some others! Ended up, Jason and I had to sleep separately. My lovely dear was being so caring as scared I will be disturbed by other people. So, we slept in a shared coach up there. One guy was being disturbed by us to sleep aside. We felt so sorry, but we had no choice. The bus was so cold and that time I was so wanted to pee… Arghhhhhhh…. feeling so suffer. Thanks god to have him aside. 🙂
This dog is so cute! He was so tempted to keep playing around with him.
If not because of the restriction in airport, he would chose to bring him back. 😉
Our sumptuous dinner with our new friend from Chengdu.
Wish to see him some days in future!
Luang Prabang
We stayed in one of Malaysian’s hostel in LP – Haloha hostel. AT here, we tended to be smart a bit: we rent a bike! smart us! 😉 hahahha! Places to travel: Guang Xi Waterfall, Vat Xieng Toung, Phou Si…
To me, riding motorcycle in a town is much more better than cycling around. To Jason, he must be so excited to have experience to ride mortocycle in a town as that is his first time! Thanks for the ride though! I indeed appreciate it a lot! ❤ He was performing excellently in his first ride, a round applause to him.
One of the funny incidents happen where my boyfriend accidentally took the Vientiane’s hostel key all the way to Luang Prabang, the end, we passed to one of the guest whom they were going to stay in their hostel soon. What I want to conclude is that, there are so many first time, and so many things exciting & ad hoc tings happen. However, with the ‘Flower and the Bee’ spirit, we managed to solve it and go through it where I think should give us a round applause to us as well. 😉
One of the recommended chilling place to go: Utopia Café
They hang those machine on the wall and decorate the cafe with all the bikes around. Wow! This is something special and it helps to open my eyes. We rarely got time to really chill out at 4pm in the evening. It was so relax and we were happy to get-together.
In Conclusion, I really enjoy my trip. This is our first trip, and I do longing for many trips to come….
Travel in the younger sort, is part of education; in the elder sort, is part of experience.
Today is 13.03.2014. Wish everyone Happy White Valentines, and also to people whom I love do enjoy everyday.
Cheers,
–FLOWER & BEE –
Do you know of facebook?
I guess mostly people will have an account for facebook page, let alone me. 😉
Yeah, I am a stalker, most of the time I just scroll down to check my friends’ status, their life, their mood, etc…. What I will do next is that, I will like their status, their photos, their sharing….. Nothing much, that is just a place for me to update my friends’ status.
Today, I bought a bread for my quick lunch. I felt boring. Hence, I was excited to try the icon at the update status in facebook.
This is what I post.
Interestingly, there are so many people missunderstand my meaning. I didn’t mean that as what they think. Due to this art of communication, wording can be power enough to give people understand differently! Awhhh! I should be more aware next time!
That in fact is ‘facebook’ status instead of ‘relationship’ status 😉
Just add or reduce a word. The meaning can be all change! A hahahahah! So a reminder to all, do make sure your word in line to everyone whenever u post anything! Cheers everybody!
“The difference between the right word and the almost right word is the difference between lightning and the lightning bug.”
– MARK TWAIN –
– BEE –
Arghhh !!! What a day!!!
Early in the morning, it rained!
As usual, I was planning to go gym at first, then I remembered I forgot to bring clothes. Ended up I went back and chose to bath at the Celebrity Fitness. Later, I got back to work. At the entrance, I saw the pouring rain. Raining heavily, I hardly cross the road. Awhhhhh !! At last, I got back to my car and took the umbrella. Thanks god there’s umbrella inside my car, thanks to my love one who always concern about the details in my life. Little little details that really warm me up. I appreciate to have you, appreciate things that you did, appreciate everything that you do! ❤ Though I am a bit stubborn sometimes, hope for some time, think about my background and all that, you probably would release you a bit? A flower, sometimes known as a blosom. I always think of you as in ‘flower’ which bloom my life! There is a quote as below…
Flowers don’t worry about how the’re going to bloom. They just open up and turn toward the light and that makes them beautiful. ~Jim Carrey
Later, I got wet when I reached office. My shoes were as if as a small tank inside. Awhh.. That’s disgusting ! I quickly change my slippers. I am blessed with the food provided by his dad! Ahhhh !! He was so sweet. I love his family as well !!! Appreciate their love, care and concern which I think those are priceless! I am fortunate 🙂
– BEE –
Early in the morning, one of my friend from Japan share a photo with us. She told us that it is even nicer at the place itself.
I looking at the picture, its tranquility and serenity calm me down….
This reminds me of the quote below:-
If I were a flower.. I would be a sunflower.
To always follow the sun, Turn my back to darkness,
Stand proud, tall and straight even with my head full of seeds.Pam Steward
To everyone, wherever u feel unhappy, down, discourage or in a serious bad mood, what can I suggest probably look at photos as below or u can buy sunflowers to accompany you…😉 The best would be travel to somewhere that with awesome view!
The spirit of sunflower of standing proud to the sun is one of the way we face our life!
Cheers! ❤
The Flower and The Bee 